"SONATA" acts as an apt metaphor for relationships, cuz relationships also, for that matter, undergo a similar pattern. Every relationship has an introduction or opening where both concerned parties are @ their cheerful, charming, lovely, exciting, interesting n interested best. There is no need of putting or pulling up defences..where the ride is easy n smooth. Trivial relationships and majority of the friendship-relationships stop here.
The more serious ones move ahead into the slow n painful development phase, painful 'cuz, suddenly the initial rose tinted vision and charmed touch gives way to the more, shall we say, unpleasing realities of different personalities. The development phase in a sonata, as any music enthusiast wud affirm, is the difficult phase as here different notes need to be carefully understood n balanced..requiring a lot of work n patience. Here depths need to be plumbed, highs need to be reached but the important thing being doing it together..(individuality needs to take a backseat not by compulsion but by a willingness borne out of mutual respect and admiration)...the notes need to be woven together. If a density function of a normal distribution were to be plotted, this middle-phase wud surely come rite @ the end of the Gaussian-Curve where the curve tapers to join the horizontal axis.
If this long phase is successfully traversed, comes the fulfilling stage of the final rousing finale where the carefully n painstakingly interwoven notes go on to create an exquisite symphony....a joint-life based on deep abiding trust n mutual respect n admiration.
The second metaphor being the "CHESS" game where each concerned party after the initial pleasantries (read that as mobilisation of defences), engages the other in a mid-game with a singular motive, where a struggle develops and intensifies and pieces are lost on both sides n forces diminished. The end occurs with one of the sides being trapped or paralyzed or in case of equals, resulting in a stalemate.
3 comments:
good comparison. relationships have a graph similar to the first half of the Gaussian-Curve and the later half the graph line inclines upwards or breaks off. its only in rare cases is the Gaussian-Curve completed :-) anyways all the best to you!
Hello Adhiti...interesting view u have there..but then I beg to differ :). Maybe can 've a discussion on this sometime
Very true. Second phase is the most important. And it requires real hard work as both require to carefully put their points so that the other person doesnt get hurt and at the same time understand the other person's perspective. And find a middle path if both are on two different paths. And yes willingness to accept the difference whole heartedly incase there is no middle path :)
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